Overcoming Pornography, Winning at Parenting, and Protecting Against The Sin of Friendly Flirting

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Episode Summary

For some reason, the pulpit across America has avoided certain topics—from pornography to parenting. In this episode, we confront three hard questions from listeners around the country.

The enemy’s attack on marriage comes from every angle we can imagine—if you and your spouse are not firmly planted in God’s word, His roles, and His wisdom you’re putting your family in a vulnerable state. In this episode, Dale and Veronica answer three questions regarding the cancer of pornography, issues in parenting, and the sin of friendships turning into flirtationships.

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In addition to our teaching time, we usually answer one-two critical questions from our listening audience. If we had a Q&A in this episode you can view those questions at the bottom of this page and hear our responses at the closing of this episode. Also, if you have a question you would like answered on the show, please email us at support@ultimatemarriage.com.

Questions Answered In This Episode:

  • I found several porn searches and sites on my husband’s history and the rest of his search history and Google activity history has been cleared but he swears he never searched it and it was probably a popup or virus, how can I trust my husband’s word when the evidence is stacked against him?
  • How would you guys recommend going about establishing “quiet time” (by themselves) with a toddler who hasn’t done it previously and wants to spend every single moment with you? Should you punish them for walking out of their space?
  • My husband has a childhood female friend that he maintains contact with. He claims she is like a sister to him and he could never be attracted to her romantically, however, their text messages do seem to be of a playful and flirty nature and that is hurtful to me. I’ve told him how I feel about this in the past but he told me I am being controlling and lacking trust and continues to message her privately. What steps should I as his wife take if he refuses to stop contacting the other woman?

Worthy Quotes From This Episode

  • Ultimately, sin is slavery. It creates a habit of lust that leads a man to surrender his mind, body, money, time, and purity in service to it. It becomes his god and his master.
  • Repeated pornography use isn’t some slight spiritual infraction that merely requires proper sin management. It’s the highway to hell that needs an immediate detour. It is a sin that needs confession. It is a threat to your eternal security and your marriage.
  • Sin is deeply wrapped up in the heart of your child. Their desire to exercise their will is their desire to be an entity without a ruler—but the reality is the ruler is their flesh and we must point them to the only true Ruler—Christ.
  • Flirting is the first steps toward cheating—it’s a sampling of sin.
  • It’s never okay for a husband to enliven himself with another woman.

Scripture From This Episode

  • 1 Peter 2:11 “Beloved, I urge you as sojourners and exiles to abstain from the passions of the flesh, which wage war against your soul.”
  • Hebrews 3:13 “lest any of you be hardened through the deceitfulness of sin.”
  • Philippians 4:8 “Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things.”
  • Ephesians 6:4 “Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction in the Lord.”
  • Colossians 3:21 “Fathers, do not provoke your children lest they become discouraged.”
  • Ephesians 5:25-27 “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her, that He might sanctify and cleanse her with the washing of water by the word, that He might present her to Himself a glorious church, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing, but that she should be holy and without blemish.”
  • Proverbs 6:24-25 “To preserve you from the evil woman, from the smooth tongue of the adulteress. Do not desire her beauty in your heart, and do not let her capture you with her eyelashes;”
  • 1 Corinthians 10:23 “All things are lawful,” but not all things are helpful. “All things are lawful,” but not all things build up.”
  • Galatians 6:7 “Do not be deceived: God is not mocked, for whatever one sows, that will he also reap.”

This Week’s Memory Verse

  • Ephesians 5:25-27 “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her, that He might sanctify and cleanse her with the washing of water by the word, that He might present her to Himself a glorious church, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing, but that she should be holy and without blemish.”

Resources Mentioned

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Written By Dale Partridge
Dale is the co-founder and Editor in Chief at Ultimate Marriage. He is best known as a thought leader on biblical theology, family, and church practice. Currently, Dale is finishing his graduate studies at Western Seminary.
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