The Biblical Roles of a Husband and Wife

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Episode Summary

The culture has created much confusion about the roles of a husband and wife. In this episode, Dale and Veronica quickly discuss the Bible’s call for marital roles.

The purpose of a role in any environment (work, church, school, family, or marriage) is to offer that person a clear path to success—a way to win. In today’s society, people are more confused about their roles and purpose and mission than ever before. With the attack of the feminists and the redefinition of masculinity and sexuality, people are leaning more on their emotions than immovable truths to define their roles.

In this episode, Veronica and I briefly discuss how the Bible instructs husbands and wives to behave within their marriage. In short, we look at the core roles and responsibilities found in Ephesians chapter five and review God’s expectations for those participating in a Christian marriage.

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In addition to our teaching time, we answer two critical questions from our listening audience which are deeply connected to the issue of roles. You can view those questions at the bottom of this page and hear our responses at the closing of this episode.

Worthy Quotes From This Episode

  • The goal of a Christian marriage is to become one flesh and represent the ultimate marriage between Christ and His bride, the Church.
  • All God’s doctrine is motivated by love. In other words, his commands in Scripture aren’t really demands they are signs of affection. We cannot forget that we are the beneficiaries of obedience, not God.
  • For a Christian wife, the safest place to be in your marriage is in the effort of trying to walk out your biblical role.
  • As a husband, your number one mission on this earth should be to furnish your wife with everything she needs to be holy.

Scripture From This Episode

  • Ephesians 5:22-24 “Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. 23 For the husband is head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the church; and He is the Savior of the body. 24 Therefore, just as the church is subject to Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything.”
  • Genesis 3:16 “To the woman He said: “I will greatly multiply your sorrow and your conception; In pain you shall bring forth children; Your desire shall be for your husband, And he shall rule over you.”
  • Ephesians 5:25-27 “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her, 26 that He might sanctify and cleanse her with the washing of water by the word, 27 that He might present her to Himself a glorious church, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing, but that she should be holy and without blemish.”

Questions Answered In This Episode

  • How can I stay loving towards my husband during the times when my mood is being negatively affected by hormonal changes/imbalances which cause me to feel irritated and anger towards him?
  • I struggle with pornography and I know it hurts my wife, any recommendations on how to quit?

This Week’s Memory Verse

  • Men: Ephesians 5:25-27 “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her, 26 that He might sanctify and cleanse her with the washing of water by the word, 27 that He might present her to Himself a glorious church, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing, but that she should be holy and without blemish.”
  • Women: Ephesians 5:22-24 “Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. 23 For the husband is head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the church; and He is the Savior of the body. 24 Therefore, just as the church is subject to Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything.”

Lastly, did anything stand out in this show? Do you have any comments, additions or questions? Let us know about them in the comments below.

Written By Dale Partridge
Dale is the co-founder and Editor in Chief at Ultimate Marriage. He is best known as a thought leader on biblical theology, family, and church practice. Currently, Dale is finishing his graduate studies at Western Seminary.
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