How To Confess, Repent, and Redeem Sin in Your Marriage

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Episode Summary

Bitterness kills marriages every day. The Bible offers a clear path on how to deal with bitterness and sin in our marriage. Those who deny the practice do so at their own peril. Those who adopt it enjoy the blessing of a thriving Christian marriage.

We’ve watched couples destroy themselves over their inability to reconcile sin in their marriage. For many, it comes as a slow death fueled by the roots of resentment and bitterness. For others, it’s a lifetime of animosity toward one another that prevents the enjoyment of marriage, family, and community. In this episode, Dale and Veronica dig out the Scripture’s instruction for conflict resolution and call Christian couples to fervently seek unity and love once more.

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In addition to our teaching time, we answer one-two critical questions from our listening audience. You can view those questions at the bottom of this page and hear our responses at the closing of this episode. Also, if you have a question you would like answered on the show, please email us at

Worthy Quotes From This Episode

  • Resentment and bitterness are the great destroyers of marriages.
  • Any root bears fruit. Husbands and wives if you’re allowing yourself to be bitter in your marriage it will bear bad fruit. Poisonous fruit that you will feed to your spouse and to your children.
  • Couples, if you’ve sinned against your spouse don’t go confess it to your friend, go confess it to your spouse.
  • Pain, humiliation, and shame are actually important emotions God designed in us to cause us to change and turn from our sin. If we continue to escape them, we will continue to remain the same.
  • “It is a plain case, that your Father has not given you a true sense of the pardon of your sins, nor can you be certain that he will; nor have you any reason to expect it, when you are so cruel and revengeful to others. There is a considerable emphasis which lies upon the word “men”, to which “heavenly Father” is contrasted, and the sense, according to it, is, that if men, who are upon an equal foot with each other, should not forgive one another, how should it be expected that our Father which is in heaven, who is so much above, and no ways obliged to us, should forgive us?” -John Gill

Scripture From This Episode

  • Hebrews 12:15 “See to it that no one fails to obtain the grace of God; that no root of bitterness springs up and causes trouble, and by it many become defiled;”
  • James 5:16 “Confess your trespasses to one another, and pray for one another, that you may be healed. The effective, fervent prayer of a righteous man avails much.”
  • Matthew 5:23-24 “Therefore if you bring your gift to the altar, and there remember that your brother has something against you, 24 leave your gift there before the altar, and go your way. First be reconciled to your brother, and then come and offer your gift.”
  • Matthew 6:14-15 “For if you forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. 15 But if you do not forgive men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.”

Questions Answered In This Episode

  • I recently left my husband of 4 years due to extreme verbal and emotional abuse. I still want to work on the marriage but he has made no effort to get help or reconcile. Was it wrong for me to leave in the first place? And when I go back, what is my biblical role in the marriage with an abusive husband? He has never hurt me physically. I have been enjoying the podcast, but find it difficult to know exactly how it applies to my situation.

This Week’s Memory Verse

  • James 5:16 “Confess your trespasses to one another, and pray for one another, that you may be healed. The effective, fervent prayer of a righteous man avails much.”

Lastly, did anything stand out in this show? Do you have any comments, additions or questions? Let us know about them in the comments below.

Written By Dale Partridge
Dale is the co-founder and Editor in Chief at Ultimate Marriage. He is best known as a thought leader on biblical theology, family, and church practice. Currently, Dale is finishing his graduate studies at Western Seminary.
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