What It Really Means To Have A Holy Marriage

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Episode Summary

The word holy mean to be separate, different, and sacred. The Bible calls Christians to have a marriage that causes curiosity from an onlooking world. But what does it mean to be holy in marriage? Find out in this episode of Ultimate Marriage.

The goal of a secular marriage is two things: Survival and pleasure. As long as you’re happy and sustaining then everything is good. That’s not the case for Christian marriage. God isn’t concerned as much about your happiness as He is about your holiness. In fact, the more holy your marriage becomes, the happier it will be. In this episode, Dale and Veronica discuss what it looks like to have a holy marriage—how to look, act, and think differently than the culture.

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In addition to our teaching time, we answer one-two critical questions from our listening audience. You can view those questions at the bottom of this page and hear our responses at the closing of this episode. Also, if you have a question you would like answered on the show, please email us at support@ultimatemarriage.com

Worthy Quotes From This Episode

  • Christian wives, when you lead your husband doesn’t.
  • If Christian wives spent as much time praying for their husbands as they do complaining about them, we might see a revival in our homes.
  • Men, God gave our wives to us to help us. Don’t reject what God has given to you.
  • Drinking isn’t a sin, drunkenness is.
  • We’re called to not allow our bodies to be mastered by anything.

Scripture From This Episode

  • Deuteronomy 7:6 “For you are a people holy to the Lord your God. The Lord your God has chosen you to be a people for his treasured possession, out of all the peoples who are on the face of the earth.”
  • 1 Peter 2:9 “But you are a chosen generation, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, His own special people, that you may proclaim the praises of Him who called you out of darkness into His marvelous light;”
  • Matthew 5:23-24 “Therefore if you bring your gift to the altar, and there remember that your brother has something against you, 24 leave your gift there before the altar, and go your way. First be reconciled to your brother, and then come and offer your gift.”
  • Ephesians 5:22-24 “Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. 23 For the husband is head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the church; and He is the Savior of the body. 24 Therefore, just as the church is subject to Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything.”
  • James 4:17 “So whoever knows the right thing to do and fails to do it, for him it is sin.”

Questions Answered In This Episode

  • What is your advice to a couple who are searching for a church in a new town when the wife is more spiritually mature and has stronger preferences about the worship style, liturgy, sermon content etc but still desires to help her husband be a spiritual leader for the family in this process?
  • I’m curious your view on alcohol consumption? My husband and I just heard a very powerful sermon saying that any form of alcohol consumption is sinful and wrong. While we agree that drunkenness (which is referenced heavily in the Bible) is wrong but if we want to share one glass of wine on occasion after the kids are in bed during a “home date” together is that sinful behavior?

This Week’s Memory Verse

  • 1 Peter 2:9 “But you are a chosen generation, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, His own special people, that you may proclaim the praises of Him who called you out of darkness into His marvelous light;”

Lastly, did anything stand out in this show? Do you have any comments, additions or questions? Let us know about them in the comments below.

Written By Dale Partridge
Dale is the co-founder and Editor in Chief at Ultimate Marriage. He is best known as a thought leader on biblical theology, family, and church practice. Currently, Dale is finishing his graduate studies at Western Seminary.
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