How Many Children Should Christians Have? A Biblical Perspective

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Episode Summary

For many Christians, if we’re being honest, children are an obstacle in the way of creating the life and lifestyle we desire. But while we may think children impede our dreams, the Bible tells us that children should be the dream.

You won’t find a Christian in the church that disagrees—children are a blessing. However, Christian fertility rates are dropping across the board. More Christians are having less children. So what’s going on? Do we not want more blessings? Or is something else going on in the church?

In this episode, Dale and Veronica take a look at what the Bible says about children and how Christians can evaluate if they are conforming to God’s perspective or the world’s.

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In addition to our teaching time, we answer two critical questions from our listening audience. You can view those questions at the bottom of this page and hear our responses at the closing of this episode. Also, if you have a question you would like answered on the show, please email us at support@ultimatemarriage.com

Worthy Quotes From This Episode

  • The culture influences the church more than the church is influences the culture.
  • Children are not a distraction from the more important work. They are the more important work.
  • Our culture will tell you that children will impede your dreams. But the Bible says that children should be the dream.
  • the way the church treats the doctrine of children is like this: Lord Jesus, I want your will to be done in my life in every area except this one.
  • God doesn’t give us an exact number for the children we are to have. He just says, multiply. He doesn’t say sustain or maintain. He doesn’t say add. He says to be fruitful and multiply.
  • God is not interested in the diminishing of His people on the planet. He wants us to fill the earth with His image.
  • Children are how God is building his Kingdom here on earth.

Scripture From This Episode

  • Psalm 127:3-5 “Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord, The fruit of the womb is a reward. Like arrows in the hand of a warrior, So are the children of one’s youth. Happy is the man who has his quiver full of them; They shall not be ashamed, But shall speak with their enemies in the gate.
  • Proverbs 17:6 “Children’s children are the crown of old men, And the glory of children is their father.”
  • Matthew 18:2-4 “Then Jesus called a little child to Him, set him in the midst of them, and said, “Assuredly, I say to you, unless you are converted and become as little children, you will by no means enter the kingdom of heaven. Therefore whoever humbles himself as this little child is the greatest in the kingdom of heaven.”

Questions Answered In This Episode

  • How do you guys navigate watching any sort of television shows and movies? It seems like you can’t watch any shows or movies these days without at least one sex scene in it.

This Week’s Memory Verse

  • Psalm 127:3-5 “Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord, The fruit of the womb is a reward. Like arrows in the hand of a warrior, So are the children of one’s youth. Happy is the man who has his quiver full of them; They shall not be ashamed, But shall speak with their enemies in the gate.

Lastly, did anything stand out in this show? Do you have any comments, additions or questions? Let us know about them in the comments below.

Written By Dale Partridge
Dale is the co-founder and Editor in Chief at Ultimate Marriage. He is best known as a thought leader on biblical theology, family, and church practice. Currently, Dale is finishing his graduate studies at Western Seminary.
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